You got the man, and I’m jealous.

The love of my life is standing in front of me, he kneels down, and removes a box from his pocket, and opens it facing me. The ring is beautiful, just like this moment. It’s everything I ever could have imagined and in that moment, I know God orchestrated this. He planned each second, and it’s amazing. I’m happy.

Except, that hasn’t happened yet. No, don’t cross out yet. It will happen, just hasn’t yet.

I feel like we’re in the middle of ‘everyone change your status to in a relationship on Facebook, and let’s post our new engagement ring photos, and such’ season.

My feed is being filled with rings, and I’m jealous. I hate to admit it, but if we’re being honest, I am. And if you’re single, you probably are too, as much as you might not want to admit it.

We live in a society now-a-days that says happiness equals relationships, and being single will never equal happiness.

What if I told you society was right?

Being in a relationship brings such a fulfillment that being single normally never brings. And that’s not saying that having a significant other will make you happy, but society is making it seem that way. And we’re not happy being single because we aren’t content with our relationship with God. Us Christians are basing happiness off who we’re dating, and if we’re dating. Since when did God stop being our means of happiness?

I’ll be the first to raise my hand and say, “my relationship with God hasn’t brought me the happiness I desire“, and that’s not because of God. That’s because of me. I have turned from God, and tried to create relationships and happiness of something I can only control so much of. God has to finish it, and He apparently is saying, “Um no. Sit down and stop chasing happiness. You need to be single a tad bit longer“.

Recently I found out someone was engaged, and I was jealous. The first thing that came to mind was, I’m a Christian. I have done so much, and prayed for so long, and she hasn’t lived her life for you [God], yet you give her this happiness?

That’s when I realized it. I have been praying for so long to be in a relationship so I’d be happy. Why haven’t I just prayed to be happy? When does a relationship have to be connected to it?

We’re all struggling with being content. Or at least I am.

We see other girls with rings on, and we get jealous. We want that, and we more than likely have continuously prayed, and our finger is still bare.

God is the only pure happiness. We need to focus on our relationship with God, before we strive to have a relationship with another.

Hebrews 10:36 You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.

Living for God will bring happiness. And God will bring us a relationship when it’s His timing, and according to His will. Not ours. His promises will endure.

So next time you find your heart filling with jealousy because you see another post on social media about a relationship, or engagement, stop to ask yourself why your heart has room for jealousy, for if God was truly who you were pursuing, jealousy would have no room.

A man will not bring you happiness. God will.

A ring will not prove you are loved. God does.

A status will not prove you are worthy. God says you are.

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6 thoughts on “You got the man, and I’m jealous.”

  • Another insightful and powerful piece Brittany! Honestly, you just write about what I be thinking about most of the time. Remember that God writing your love story.

  • Awe, thank you! That means a lot! I’m glad you can relate to my posts and they mean something to you…. Yes, God’s writing each of our love stories, and they’ll be amazing when they are finally told. So exciting to think about, right?! 🙂

  • Your honesty is inspiring and I definitely felt this way back in my single days. I think it is very difficult at times to be content in our relationship with God because He gave us the desire for companionship. Of course, what we do with that desire is up to us. I know I wasted time chasing men who were not right for me, until I realized that if I was serious about finding a Godly relationship, I needed to make some changes in my own life first. Devoting myself to God was so important in my single days. And you’re right that being in a relationship does not automatically lead to happiness. Marriage takes a lot of work! Even the engagement period was a real challenge as we had to learn to work as a team on planning a wedding. But anything worth having is worth working for. May God bring you many blessings in the days to come…

  • Thank you, Julie! I’m trying to put more work in my relationship with God, and patiently wait for His timing. Although it’s hard, I know it’ll be worth it. Thank you again for your comment! <3

  • This is great, and I definitely relate to this being 23 and watching the first set of classmates all getting engaged and getting married off. Wonderfully worded, I love it.

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